Staging an intervention is one of the most effective ways to help an addicted loved one to not only recognize that they are living with the medical disorder of addiction but also that treatment for that disorder is necessary – immediately.
It’s not an easy conversation to have with someone and, for that reason, many people choose to write an intervention letter. For some, the letter must be read for them if they are unable to attend the intervention, but many others choose to read an intervention letter in person because it allows them to more easily collect their thoughts, avoid becoming overly emotional, and make sure that they say everything they want to say.
I know we’ve talked about this before, but today, I need you to listen with an open mind. I love you very much, and I only want to see you get the help you need to get better. You may not think that you have a problem with alcohol or drugs, but it’s very clear that drinking and drug use has harmed you more than you realize.
Since you began using drugs and alcohol, your health has gone downhill. The doctor has told you for months that your symptoms would only get worse if you continue drinking and using drugs, and even though we have seen that happen, you have still been unable to quit.
You have promised me so many times that you would stop or cut back that I’ve lost count. One of the most recent was after you got in the car accident after drinking. Another time was after you lost your job. Both of these things happened because you are living with an addiction.
I want you to know that the addiction and its effects are not your fault. I don’t blame you. Addiction is a medical disorder, and it requires medical treatment –and that is why you need treatment. Detox and therapy will help you to stop drinking and using drugs right now, today. I’ve already made all the arrangements. I’d really like it if you agreed to go, and I promise I will stand by you and support you as you go through recovery.
If you choose not to go to rehab, that is a choice I must respect, but you need to know that I will be making changes going forward. I will have to ask you to move out by the end of the month, and I will no longer be giving you any money or paying any of your bills. I do not want to hurt you, but I feel it is my only option because I can no longer stand by and watch you kill yourself. I believe that the assistance I have been giving you has enabled you to continue in your addiction, and I can’t do that any longer. I love you too much to take part in your addiction, but I want you in my life. Please choose treatment.
Things to Remember
- Avoid taking a judgmental tone.
- Remind the person that you love them and want what’s best for them.
- Use specific examples to demonstrate how their drug or alcohol use has hurt them.
- Avoid becoming overly emotional.
- Make it clear what will change if they choose not to go to rehab.
- Assure them that you will be there to support them if they do opt for treatment.
- Emphasize that they need to agree to get help right now and leave immediately.
An intervention can be the catalyst that connects your addicted loved one with the life-changing treatment he or she needs. Contact us at The Oaks at La Paloma today to learn more about how we can help.